I just finished another book called Who Will Deliver Us? The Present Power of the Death of Christ by Paul Zahl. Powerful.
One of the things he wrote had to do with the power we give to others, power over ourselves. Zahl wrote:
A ministry of imputation calls for preaching and teaching a dramatic affirmation of the self. (I had a little difficulty with that sentence, till I read the rest of what he wrote). It is initially a question of recognizing a virtually universal negative experience (something everyone might experience) of life: that we allow others to carry our value. Other people have an extraordinary hold over us: their view of us, or what we think their view is, matters more than what we think of ourselves. Imputation (Christ's righteousness credited to us) turns this situation around, declaring that in the great transaction of the death of Christ, God has reaffirmed the priceless value he conferred on human beings in our creation. (p. 73)
That is pretty heavy. We all relinquish that kind of control to others every day of our lives--some of us more than others. How?